Tonight I decided to reach out to a very well known “influencer.” I won’t mention his name and most people reading this will know exactly who he is.
I’ve never met this person, don’t really know much about him, and he has no idea who I am.
Based on what I saw online, he’s going through an extremely tough time. To make things worse, thousands of people are piling on when he’s going through one of the most challenging times of his life.
He’s masking his pain like a typical influencer -renting a car for a video, “canal street” watches, and Air BnB “houses.”
So I decided to reach out on Instagram, not expecting a response. My message was simple, to the point, and an offer to listen if he needs it…no judgement.
His response (and I’m directly quoting)…
“That’s Gay. Nobody going through a tough time. That’s gay. Internet gossip. Get a life. That’s gay.”
Yes, he literally said “that’s gay” 3 times and those were all separate responses in a matter of seconds.
I replied by simply saying “I understand you’re angry and bitter. I probably would be too. But you’ve helped a lot of people and there’s no shame in someone needing help during tough times. If you need someone to listen, no judgement, just reach out.”
The reason I’m telling you this is NOT to brag about getting a reply from an “influencer” with tens of millions of followers.
It’s to make the point that the rejection is on HIM, not me. I made the offer because I saw someone in pain. I would have made the same offer if it was some random person on the street. I made the offer and what he does with that is 100% on him.
Here’s an analogy that may or may not make sense.
If I see a homeless person begging for money and I give him $20 only to have him buy alcohol or drugs with it, that’s on HIM not me. I saw someone in pain and made the offer to help. Then the ball is in their court.
Rejection, when making an honest offer to help (whether it’s a personal situation or business related) is ALWAYS a reflection of the other person – NOT YOU.
Stop taking it personally. Make offers and let the “other side” do as they wish.
-KC
